When an individual decides to divorce his or her spouse, that individual’s loved ones often question how they can best be of service during this time of transition. If one of your loved ones is seeking a divorce or has recently finalized one, the most important thing you can do is be supportive in the ways that your loved one needs you to be. Note that your loved one may need you to be supportive in ways that are foreign to you and ways that may differ significantly from what you would need in the same situation.
Unfortunately, even individuals with the best of intentions can make the divorce process more trying for their loved ones simply by forcing certain kinds of support on them, regardless of what kinds of support they actually need. One of the best examples of this reality is the kinds of things that loved ones choose to say to divorcing individuals.