We frequently write about the divorce process and all that it entails. An attorney experienced in family law can generally speak at length about the legal aspects of the divorce process and about the various approaches couples take when filing for divorce. However, no attorney can tell you with any kind of certainty whether or not you should file for divorce. That decision is up to you.
Of course, an attorney would likely advise you to leave as soon as you can do so safely if your marriage has become abusive. But beyond this seemingly bright line, it can be difficult to determine when divorce is the right choice for a couple and when it may not be. Only you know your values, limits and priorities well enough to know whether your marriage has ultimately become so unhealthy or unhappy that it is time to move on. However, it may take some time to reach a conclusion one way or another.